THE ART of FEAR

Now Playing...
[The Remedy by Jason Mraz]

"...I say the tragedy is how you're gonna spend
The rest of your nights with the light on
So shine the lights on your friends
When it all amounts to nothing in the end...
I won't worry my life away...2x"

Yeah... This is the song I'm playing right now... And yes, I kept on playing it unconciously while in the bus on my way home from work. While looking outside,as trees and houses passes by,my mind was overflowing of so many random thoughts. Amazing that I came up with an interesting one. I was thinking about FEAR and how to deal with it.


FEAR
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for other uses, see fear (disambiguation)

Fear is an emotional response to a perceived threat. It is a basic survival mechanism occuring in response to specific stimulus, such as pain or the threat of danger.


So fear, therefore is something we feel towards a thing we are afraid of. Everyone knows fear, but some only knows how to trade with it. I know what fear is... but I'm uncertain how to overwhelm it. I have boxes of it, and I know we have some things in common.

For me, FEAR is/are:

~> spiders and cockroaches (including all crawling organisms)
~> heights
~> crossing streets(specially on highways)
~> ghosts, wiccas, witchcrafts and pagan cults, etc.(well, it's situational...)
~> assessments/examinations (specially when I find the subject too complicated e.g. MATH, CHEMISTRY, PHYSICS and everything that is indeed to be memorized) heck!
~> criticism
~> falling madly in love...(then get dumped)
~>death
~> saying GOODBYE to someone whom you expected to stay for life
~> well, lastly... Ofcourse, GOD.



What's at stake?


Spiders... Cockroaches... Worms... Unidentified Crawling Organism(U.C.O.)... and alot more. Well, who likes it? If you do, I don't know if you're thinking just fine. Perhaps, consult a doctor.(Just Kidding! :) ) Yeah, not all but most of us are hating these creatures. Are we forever jumping in fear everytime we see one? We should not. It's quite easy, get your largest slipper and (...you know what to do next). Have a bit courage to do it, anyway you are a hundred times bigger than it. And besides, if you get used to doing it, the FEAR isn't there anymore. You'll be seeing yourself triumphant of getting over the thing you are scared of. Suddenly you'll realized that the FEAR you have before was now turned into something called COURAGE.

Heights...
Roller coaster, bungee jumping, parachutes, hang gliding... and everything that relates to heights... Yes, I'm afraid of it... It's like a bit next to danger. And the word "what if" starts to make up my FEAR. Like, "What if the rope breaks?" , "What if I landed badly?"or the scariest of all... "What if I die?" Would I still feel the JOY that the others felt when they tried it? I don't think so. Somehow, I'm thinking of trying it but definitely NOT now. Seeing videoclips of it makes me even feel the FEAR. But as I see overflowing with tears of JOY once they overcome it, I'm CURIOUS to try.

Crossing streets...
Don't laugh! :) I know, it's funny that a 19 year old lady finds it scary to cross the street. It's kinda hard to reveal it, though. But what I'm really scared of, is ofcourse, not the street-- but the cars and ten-wheeler trucks that passes. Again, there is the DANGER and overcoming it means alot. When I eventually crossed the other side, it's like a SUCCESS for me. Cheers! :)

Ghosts, Wiccas, Witchcrafts...etc.
Goosebumps...haha! Like those that you see in movies(e.g. sadako, exorcism of emily rose, the grudge, the white ladies, and more). I'm not a child anymore but it doesn't mean that there's an exception on what to feel. I'm afraid of that but as long as I haven't seen one, it will forever be just an art of my wild imaginations. There is one thing that I do before diving the bed-- I pray. And it takes the FEAR away.

Examinations...
Yes, I fear assessments and even evaluations. Why? In every test, there is a an unacceptable thing called MISTAKE, unless you got PERFECT.
I am not PERFECT. And committing MISTAKES for me is something I absolutely fear of. For every mistake comes with a consequence.
How can I deal with it?
BE PREPARED...because even intellects have their own weak points.

Criticism...
Critics are words we avoid to hear from people that are ahead of us. We might not want to hear or know bad things that they see about us. But acknowledging or learning it gives you a room to IMPROVE. I fear it. Possibly, because I hate to disappoint myself. Like, when I thought that I was doing great but for others, it was'nt good enough. It leads to frustration specially when I tried a couple of times and ended up with nothing. One thing to do is keep on trying. STRIVE for the best. If you feel like giving up, take a pause but never STOP. Because if you do, you are more likely to be called as LOSER.

Falling madly in love...(then get dumped)
Oh, I hate this... Spell O.U.C.H.-- that explains it. O-ounce of bitterness... U-unconcious falling of tears... C-cohesive suicidal attempt... H-hates to starve...
Yes... I know, overcoming it is hard. But CLOCK is moving,so as you should.

Death...
I don't want to die. I'm not ready yet. But it is a fact, that in time,destiny will come to bring us to it's bed. We may FEAR, deny for now, bargain, or even pretend we don't know it but ACCEPTANCE is always at the end. Right?

Saying GOODBYE to someone we expect to stay for life.
It's just easy. People do come and go. You can never dictate one to stay as long as you want, because we are created to make our own stories for us to see how the world works for us. It's hard to say goodbye. Seeing the person walk away is the most painful part. But have we thought that GOODBYES are really not forever? We are just acting over the distance that abides on a period of time.

GOD...
Precisely... No further explanation.



That's it...


For me... Fear comes with the things that we eventually learn as we grow up. Come to think of a child... so pure and innocent... He don't know the word PRETEND. That explains the reason why when he gets HURT, he CRIES. That is his way of showing how he got hurt. So why hide the tears if you feel the hurt? Sometimes, crying eases the pain...

To sum up everything I said, LIFE is something which deals with:


*HURT*PAIN*TEARS*LEARNING*FEAR*HOPE*LoVE*HAPPINESS*

I'm starting to deal with it...
HOw about you?
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