Hey people! You're under your sheets right now perhaps. The weather seems to be a wrecking ball to our endeavors for the day. Haha! Super typhoon in the country now! ):
But it's fine. You can never define strength without having something or someone to wreck our lives. (: Right?
...and the invisible trophy that we might have in our hands is the fact that thou some unfortunate events came into our lives, thou we see ourselves almost in the edge of giving up, here we are... STILL STANDING, STILL FIGHTING, STILL MOVING, STILL HAVE THE CHANCE TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT and FEASIBLE.
I know it is kinda awkward to think but every time I feel down and every time I meet failure, I always think... What could possibly be worst than of death? Than of without having tomorrow? Than of realizing that you were wrong but never had the chance to say SORRY? Or never had the chance to say Thank You? Overly dramatic but it is an unseen fact that someone would hardly realize and others may not at all.
There are some who doesn't seem to decipher why their life becomes miserable. So let me help you out at the best of my abilities for you to get over it. Here are some numbers to help you out:
1.0 Enumerate the CAUSES.
1.1 You can never solve anything without being able to realize what the problem is.
1.2 Sometimes, if you become blind with the real cause, you seem to feel the pressure and just to divert it, you'll blame somebody else, that would make things worst.
1.3 Never make a decision under a high level of emotion. Sometimes, we say things that we really don't mean when we're extremely happy, or in adverse, when we're sad, we tend to say things that later, we come to regret it.
2.0 DEAL about it POSITIVELY.
2.1 Negative people would never find their way to long term happiness. They would always find reasons to feel bad. Most of the time, stay positive. Be good to others and they will give back twice as much as you do. If they don't, it is not your PROBLEM anymore. (:
2.2 Learn to CONFRONT. Confrontation doesn't mean that you are rude. It just means you want to talk about what you feel. Both sides come to prove their own points, and it creates connection to solve the conflict. It is better to speak out than let everything grow terrible because you don't want to talk about it. After all, if confronting doesn't seem to work, here comes 2.3 (:
2.3 CALM yourself and PRAY. Nothing goes wrong in PRAYING. God knows why things happen. An event might make you miserable but at the end of the day, you'll realize that what causes it is not important at all. It is HOW YOU DEAL with it. (:
3.0 BREATTTTTTHHHHHHE.
3.1 Yes. Breathe. It helps a lot. Crying helps too. But I tell you, it makes everyone ugly so try to avoid it. Haha! (:
3.2 Breathing deep relieves stress. I remember my Lola would always tell me that *sighing* is bad BUT for some people, it makes them feel better. And so do I!
3.3 It is scientifically proven that emotional pain only lasts for 15 minutes, the rest of what you feel would just be self-inflicted. I know it is hard to believe. Because when it hurts, we can't dictate our minds to feel less pain when we feel so. But having that in mind makes me feel better. Promise. After crying for a period of time, Im telling myself, "Hey, that's enough. Save some tears for tomorrow." Haha. But seriously, crying would somehow ease a little pain, but having too much of it won't define your tomorrow. So just MOVE ON.
4.0 Learn about the 5 Stages of GRIEF and LOSS
4.1 Fear. The first stage, the feeling that we cannot avoid. I would always ask some questions such as: "Bakit?" , "What went wrong??" , "Why me?", and the feeling of worries about what would happen next. How to deal with it? TALK to HIM.
4.2 Anger. This feeling would give you the urge to blame every body or someone else. This feeling is normal, but never allow yourself to hold on to this feeling forever. It will never make you feel any better.
4.3 Denial. A phase to which you still try not to admit what happened. You're still in a state of mind that what happens is NOT HAPPENING. Praning lang?! haha.
4.4 Bargaining. In the fourth stage, you see yourself on bended knees. You see yourself asking God's help. What you need here is something like a MIRACLE.
4.5 Acceptance. This is the final and the hardest STAGE. But when you come to feel it, it's beyond the feeling of being in HEAVEN. Ang gaan ng feeling. Haha! The feeling of acceptance is like you've surrendered everything to GOD. Let Go means LET GOD. Let Him work in your life, and every thing will go in His way.
5.0 Count your BLESSINGS instead of counting tiny pieces of misfortunes.
5.1 Always remember good things are uncountable. There are million of blessings to be thankful for instead of hating the storm that only happens one in a blue moon. I'm not saying that you should love the bad phenomenon. What I'm pointing out is to just let it happen. Keep calm and PRAY. That's the most powerful thing to do. We cannot avoid such things at times.
5.2 Appreciate the people around you and the small things that comes.
5.3 Be grateful with a piece of PIE. Contentment is one factor to consider in defining HAPPINESS. If you in simple things you cannot manage to be happy, how much more in huge ones?
And that's it. See? It's pouring hard outside, the typhoon seems to lift things up...but I was still able to share these things to you. The lights are out, be extra careful. God be with US all the time.
Sending my warm hug to everyone,
XOXO
Apple
